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Tension: Aging is inevitable, but accelerated wear is often optional—a reflection of daily choices rather than the calendar.
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Noise: Anti-aging marketing focuses on miracle serums while downplaying sleep debt, chronic stress, and ultra-processed diets that silently etch years onto a face.
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Direct Message: Youthful longevity thrives on subtraction—cutting the habits that inflame, exhaust, and dehydrate body and spirit long before wrinkles show.
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I’ve always believed aging is as much a mindset as it is a number. Over the years, both in my teaching career and now in retirement, I’ve noticed there’s a group of people in their 60s who seem to glow with vitality.
I’ve asked myself: what exactly do they do—or not do—that keeps them looking and feeling so remarkably younger than their chronological age? After countless conversations and observations, I’ve come to realize that what we don’t do can sometimes be just as important as what we do.
In this article, I want to share seven common mistakes these youthful older folks seem to avoid, and how you, too, can steer clear of them. Let’s dive in.
1. They don’t believe it’s “too late” to start new things
A good friend of mine once told me, “You’re only too old if you believe you are.” I think that sums up this first point perfectly.
People in their 60s who look decades younger usually possess an almost childlike enthusiasm for new experiences. They volunteer at community events, take up new hobbies, or go back to learning a skill they set aside decades ago—like painting or playing piano.
One of the biggest mistakes I see is the belief that if you haven’t started something by 50 (or 60, or 70), you’ve missed the boat. This sort of thinking can keep us stuck. Instead, the youthful crowd knows that each day is a fresh opportunity.
As Albert Einstein famously said, “Once you stop learning, you start dying.” It might sound dramatic, but staying curious—whether you’re learning a new language or picking up a new cooking technique—keeps your mind sharp and your spirit ageless.
Ask yourself, “If I could learn one new skill right now, what would it be?” Don’t worry about whether you’ll become a pro at it. Just start. The confidence and excitement you gain will do wonders for your sense of youthfulness.
2. They don’t neglect their bodies—inside and out
I mentioned in a previous post on DMNews how daily physical activity has become one of the best gifts I’ve given myself in retirement. And I’m far from alone.
People in their 60s who seem to defy the clock tend to make movement non-negotiable in their day. It doesn’t have to be an intense workout—sometimes it’s just a brisk walk around the neighborhood or gentle stretching at home.
But there’s more to it than exercise. They nourish their bodies with healthy foods and don’t shy away from indulging in moderation. It’s not about being on a strict diet; it’s about choosing foods that fuel energy rather than drain it.
And let’s not forget about hydration. A simple glass of water can do more to perk up tired skin than any expensive face cream.
Think of taking care of your body as a form of self-respect. When you prioritize your well-being, you’re essentially telling yourself (and the world) that your health matters. This mindset naturally shines through in your overall appearance.
3. They don’t ignore the emotional weight of stress
One thing I remember from my teaching days: stress was practically an epidemic among students juggling assignments, social life, and extracurriculars.
The same kind of buildup happens in our later years, too—financial worries, health issues, or concerns about family members can weigh us down. People in their 60s who remain vibrantly youthful have often mastered the art of stress management.
They might take a daily walk to clear their heads, practice mindfulness or meditation, or even schedule regular catch-ups with friends to talk things out.
As Winston Churchill said, “You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” Learning to let go of unnecessary stress—those barking dogs—frees you to move forward.
Of course, no one is immune to life’s challenges. The difference is that these folks don’t allow stress to sit and fester; they find ways to process and release it. Whether that’s through journaling, therapy, or a relaxing hobby, the key is they keep their emotional burdens as light as possible, and it shows on their faces and in their posture.
4. They don’t let clutter—mental or physical—pile up
I once volunteered at a community center’s decluttering workshop (yes, those exist!), and it opened my eyes to how much junk we carry around—both physically and in our minds.
Youthful 60-somethings don’t let clutter become an anchor. They do a periodic “life edit,” clearing out items they no longer need and mental baggage that no longer serves them.
Physical clutter can create a sense of chaos that affects your mood and even your relationships. On the flip side, mental clutter—like old grudges, regrets, or unhelpful beliefs—can weigh you down and accelerate the feeling of aging.
The folks who maintain a fresh, youthful outlook are often quite intentional about what they keep in their homes and in their heads.
Next time you’re cleaning out a closet, take a moment to reflect on what you might also need to let go of internally. It could be a past disappointment or a nagging sense of guilt. Letting those things go is like opening a window to let fresh air in.
5. They don’t overlook the value of a good social circle
It’s no surprise that having meaningful connections keeps us feeling vibrant. Bill Gates once said, “Surround yourself with people who challenge you, teach you, and push you to be your best self.” I couldn’t agree more.
People who look younger than their years tend to have a supportive network—whether it’s family, friends, or community groups.
In my own retirement, my book club has become a highlight of my week. Swapping stories, laughing together, and even debating the merits of a particular writer keeps me socially and mentally engaged.
If you find yourself isolated, remember that it’s never too late to reach out. Volunteer groups, community classes, or simply reconnecting with old friends can breathe new life into your social sphere.
The key is maintaining relationships that add positivity. Toxic connections can weigh heavily on your well-being, so don’t be afraid to set boundaries when necessary. If you keep your circle filled with uplifting, growth-minded people, you’ll find that your own energy remains youthful and bright.
6. They don’t chase superficial measures of success
I spent years counseling high schoolers who were obsessed with class rankings and prestigious college acceptance letters—often at the cost of their mental health. The same dynamic can happen in our later years if we’re still measuring success by superficial standards.
Youthful older adults seem to have embraced a different definition of success—one that includes purpose, service, and happiness. They don’t hold onto outdated ideas about success being tied exclusively to job titles or material wealth.
Instead, they focus on what makes them feel fulfilled—whether that’s mentoring younger generations, exploring their artistic side, or dedicating themselves to a cause.
For instance, I’ve found such joy in volunteering for local literacy programs. Not only does it keep my mind engaged, but it also reminds me of the core reasons I got into education in the first place. And let me tell you, there’s nothing like seeing a young reader’s eyes light up when they finally grasp a tough concept!
7. They don’t give up on self-expression
Finally, the people in their 60s who look decades younger never let their sense of self-expression fade. Whether that’s through fashion, creative pursuits, or simply speaking their minds, they maintain a zest for life that others can’t help but notice.
I’ve known retirees who’ve taken up songwriting, pottery, or even comedy classes. Others express themselves through their personal style—wearing bold colors, sporting a trendy haircut, or accessorizing with statement pieces that bring them joy.
These may seem like small details, but they signal to the world (and to yourself) that you’re still very much alive and engaged in the present moment.
When you allow yourself the freedom to express who you are, it’s energizing. It’s a reminder that you’re not stuck in some outdated version of yourself; you’re evolving. And that sense of renewal often translates into a youthful aura that no expensive anti-aging cream can replicate.
So there you have it: seven common mistakes people in their 60s who look decades younger consistently avoid. You might notice that none of these points require extraordinary effort—rather, they call for consistent, small shifts in mindset and behavior that add up over time.
Now, I’d love to hear from you. Which one of these seven mistakes do you think resonates the most with where you are in life right now? Or is there another one you’ve seen people avoid that helps them stay youthful?
Let me know what you think. And remember: it’s never too late to adopt new habits and attitudes that can revitalize how you feel—inside and out.
